Loneliness

Who actually counts as maintaining ties

It rules out the obvious case.

لَيْسَ الْوَاصِلُ بِالْمُكَافِئِ، وَلَكِنِ الْوَاصِلُ الَّذِي إِذَا قَطَعَتْ رَحِمُهُ وَصَلَهَا

Laysa-l-wāṣilu bi-l-mukāfiʾ, wa lākini-l-wāṣilu-lladhī idhā qaṭaʿat raḥimuhu waṣalahā

The one who maintains ties is not the one who repays in kind. The one who maintains ties is the one who, when his relatives cut him off, keeps connecting.

Where this comes from

Repaying is called something else here. The word is reserved for the case where nothing is coming back.

The full narration

Narrated `Abdullah bin `Amr:The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Al-Wasil is not the one who recompenses the good done to him by his relatives, but Al-Wasil is the one who keeps good relations with those relatives who had severed the bond of kinship with him

Source

Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī · 5991

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